Wife buys a coal mine
My wife has bought a coal mine.
I'm lowering her down now, wagon attached to rope, but I see the rope is really just string.
It occurs to me that I didn't say anything to her about how dangerous I believe this is for her.
Guess I'll try interpreting some of your dreams bu since you're so good at interpreting mine.
Dream may indicate how you feel about some of your wife's ventures.
Yes, that's pretty much what I think it's about too.
If dreams have meanings that aren't immediately apparent, I would think that this definitely could be one. I doubt your wife is really into buying coal mines, so it can't be taken literally.
True.
So--when I read this, I wonder: does it have meaning? What from IRL did your mind translate into this dream? Some small or specific incident, something that defines your relationship? I wonder if the answer is immediately apparent to you, or if you have to think about it and then it comes to you, or if it is completely mysterious to you.
I'm not sure it's triggered by any one event. More like how I perceive her actions in RL. Probably something reminded me of this, but it's a recurring theme.
If the last, it may not mean anything at all. If the first, well, then the dream only presented in an obscured, limited way what you already know, which isn't useful. It's only the middle option that is potentially useful.
Interesting piece of deductive reasoning there!
That's what I wonder about when I read this dream. It's not obvious to me. You don't care about how much the mine costs, that doesn't seem to be the issue. It's old and junky, not something you would have bought obviously, but there are potential rewards too (coal already extracted) along with real risk (flimsy rope). You don't say anything--why? Right there may be an interesting interpretation that only you would know (she doesn't take criticism well, secretly you want her to fail, etc.) The gypsies? I have no idea, but I wonder if you do.
I think you've found the critical point - as often you do (how?). I think the rope is the key to the dream. I think I do want the venture to fail as if to say "told you so". The fact that she'll get hurt in the process seems to me to just hammer the point home even more. OK, IRL I wouldn't want her to fall down a mine shaft, but I think I do tend to "give her enough rope" as it were.
Is it strange that I imagine a shaft-city like you would a pack of shanties? Except, instead of it being in a depressing place, it's in a field of green... which really juxtaposes the feelings of dilapidation and poverty the broken wagon and string for rope gives me.
Yes, that's how it looked. A lush green field pock-marked by dirty mine shafts.
At first I felt it was just a sort of dream where you're doing something you're not emotionally attached to, but when I read the part of the string, I began to feel the same worry you seemed to, and then frustration that, while your wife is risking it all for some coal, you have a bunch of gypsies trying to steal your food! Overall I feel like it was just a roller coaster, at first you feel like things are in control, but then it's not... and you're trying to reclaim that control.
I didn't think of that. Yes, I'm distracted by this coal mine thing so much I can't keep an eye on the food. I'm a cautious person IRL and hate to have my attention divided like that.
Images
I found myself unable to not insert your famous donkey into this dream, pulling the carts and such. I'm also picturing you and your wife as being dressed differently than you normally are (even though I have no idea what normal is, I feel it's different somehow.) The coal mines seem bleak, dark, and dirty, and of course treacherous. I sense you have many small belongings with you, a lot of metal for some reason, that makes clanging sounds and offers obscure usages.
The donkey wouldn't be out of place. (Trying to remember the donkey...) Oddly my memory of the dream is a sunny green place with food on an outside table. But your comment is useful because clearly I wasn't looking at the dark, dirty end of the dream.
Sensations
I get the sense that the lowering of your wife must have seemed strange to you at the time, even if you were not lucid. I have no doubt of a strong sense of motion here that seemed almost abstracted from the events themselves.
Yes it was strange. Now I think about it, I reckon I felt a bit embarrassed.
In the second part, I got the impression that you did not want anyone to be able to have what you have, even though you don't really have it yourself. As if them wanting other things makes you worry that they want a particular thing, though you don't know what the particular thing is. Threatened.
Yes, threatened. I like that. Like my territory was being invaded.
Emotions
Narrow focus and disregard for the strange nature of what is apparently happening. A false sense of understanding the situation.
Not following you here.
I'm drawn to say
A very interesting dream, Bu. I hope you don't think I'm criticizing you in any way here; this is just my impression of how SC was behaving, and that's really out of your control. It sounds like SC needs to hoard or hold on to something, for its own sake. While still searching for it.
I see. Like I'm hoarding the food whilst my wife searches for coal? Well, I'm the cautious one and she's the risk-taker IRL.
Mood
The donkey cheers me up. Otherwise, I'd be reluctant to disturb you in your excavation.
Donkey
In your dream, the images of fear and anxiety for your wife contrast with the mundane, peaceful nature of the gypsies eating your food.
Yes, that's another contrast in the dream. I see you're identifying with the gypsies here! They might be peaceful but I wasn't!
I'm not sure I was anxious for my wife's safety as much as I was for the pointlessness of the venture. I could only see things going wrong and nothing good could come of it.
Thanks to all for the feedback. This wasn't a dream I'd normally spend much time on - indeed I had a much more interesting, space-age type dream the same night. But the message here seemed to suggest something rather basic and it's been useful to bounce it off you all.
I don't think I was resistant to any feedback. Sometimes I can be, but I guess my vulnerabilities stay hidden for now!
Useful feedback - I can think of two types that I suppose are most meaningful to me personally
(i) When people empathise with the dream and I really feel they're sharing the same scene. Lucidbulbs' comment
At first I felt it was just a sort of dream where you're doing something you're not emotionally attached to, but when I read the part of the string, I began to feel the same worry you seemed to, and then frustration that, while your wife is risking it all for some coal, you have a bunch of gypsies trying to steal your food!
seemed to illustrate that.
I don't think this helps me interpret a dream, however, which I suppose it's not meant to. But it does remind me of how the dream felt like a lived experience at the time. Brings it to life I suppose. Also I feel I know the person better for offering this type of feedback, which is the "tuned in" stuff I was wanting us to explore in the instructions.
(ii) When people seem to instinctively find the critical point(s) in the dream. For me these seem to be the thin rope (which I picked up quickly - well done MB) and the dilemma of supporting my wife (literally) whilst keeping the food on the table. I didn't spot that one although LB and in a different sense (the threat) Mu saw it.
Finally:
Does this change the way I write my DJ? I think this depends on who's going to read it. Seems like if it's for others to engage with then I perhaps don't need the emotional language as it comes through with the narrative anyway. But for my own benefit I probably need to keep emotional content in there.
Probably need to remember to use descriptive language more frequently. Light/dark, colour, dampness, clean/dirty etc.
